Friday, November 18, 2016

The big reveal


I know some people are very traditional and want to keep their baby's sex a surprise until birth, but we're basically the opposite of that. For us after waiting months and months {16 months this time} to conceive in the first place, the thought of having to wait another 9 months to find out the sex of our baby just feels like self-imposed punishment. As far as we're concerned we don't need anymore surprises, for us knowing the sex is pretty much the only thing we can be in control of throughout the whole process of making a baby. And once you've been through the uncertainty of infertility, being able to control one tiny aspect becomes even more paramount. I get that we aren't really in control of it though, i.e. we have no hand in choosing the sex, but just knowing the outcome of something within this process is extremely reassuring.

So, for those reasons, as soon as we found out we were finally pregnant the first conversation we had was "we're finding out the sex right?", which was met with a resounding YES from both of us. 

As soon as I got pregnant I instantly thought I was having a boy. The same thing happened last time, although I think last time I subconsciously told myself I was having a boy to lessen the shock {incase it really was a boy} because deep down I really wanted a girl. However, 2 weeks before we were due for our scan I had an overwhelming feeling we were having a girl and it turns out we were. This time around it honestly didn't bother me what we were having, in fact I started to warm to the idea of having a boy as it meant we'd have one of each if this ends up being our last baby. However, once again about 2 weeks out from our scan date I started having an overwhelming feeling it was another girl. I'm starting to think it might be some kind of in built mothers intuition.

At our scan our little bean was being extremely uncooperative and wouldn't stop flipping around {literally doing 360's} every time the ultrasound tech tried to take measurements. It also had it's legs crossed most of the time and kept grabbing it's feet so was bunched up completely. Funnily enough all this cheeky behaviour and restlessness made me think it might actually be a boy, but eventually she opened her legs for a fleeting moment and we found out we're having another baby girl.



It turns out bub is going to get the baby sister she was longing for after all, although at first she wasn't too pleased with the result. When we first told her she spent a good ten minutes whinging and yelling at us that it was a baby brother not a baby sister, but she's since come around. She now calls her baby doll a baby sister like the baby in mummy's tummy and when we ask her what's in mummy's tummy she says a baby sister. I'm so excited that she's going to have a sister because I never had one and always wished I had. It's going to be so fun watching them grow up together.



32 comments:

  1. Congratulations!! I can imagine wanting to know ahead of time to feel like you have some control.

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    1. I'm a bit of a control freak so the whole process of not being in control of anything while trying to conceive was super hard, knowing this makes me feel like I've regained a teeny bit of control over everything :)

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  2. Congratulations that is exciting. I didn't want to know the sex of my children but that was just me.

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    1. I totally get some people don't want to know and perhaps if we didn't struggle to fall pregnant I probably wouldn't mind as much either.

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  3. Super excited for you. We found out the sex of our three girls but didn't really do a big reveal. Just told people that asked. Big reveals weren't really the thing back then, or I was clueless to them. These days there are some pretty impressive ways to reveal.

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    1. This is as big as my reveal gets lol I couldn't be bothered doing a special cake, party or balloon box.

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  4. Congratulations! And yes, I am a strong believe in mum's gut instinct ... I was right both times :-)

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    1. I'm thinking it was definitely a gut instinct.

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  5. Congratulations Toni! I never had a sister either and I do think I missed out. We never found out the sex with any of our pregnancies, although Nathan accidentally found out at our last scan with Delilah as the obstetrician referred to her as a girl, then quickly corrected herself. Mind you, I was so over it at that stage that I didn't even notice!!!

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    1. They'll probably fight as much as they get along, but I think it'd be pretty special having a sister. I could never be an ultrasound tech I'd totally say it by accident.

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  6. OMG another girl! So happy for you guys! xx

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    1. I'm so happy :) As soon as I felt strong kicks I just had this feeling it was a girl.

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  7. Congratulations!!! That is so exciting! 💗💗

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  8. How wonderful!! so excited bubby is healthy and bouncing around xxx

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    1. I'm a little worried how crazy it'll be once it comes out because it wouldn't sit still the whole time, but that's also a good thing. Just hope it learns to love sleep on the outside :)

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  9. Congratulations, that's wonderful new!

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  10. A big hooray for two girls!!! Such an exciting time for you. We didn't find out either time because Dave didn't want to :)

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    1. I think T was more eager to find out than me this time.

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  11. Congratulations another girl how lovely. Thanks for the link up.

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  12. Congratulations Toni. How exciting! I love having a sister. X

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    1. Thanks Jules. I can't wait to watch them grow up together.

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  13. Congratulations! That is so exciting. We didn't find out what we were having with number 1 (the ultrasonographer wouldn't tell us) but number 2 was clearly a boy. Gave me a chance to switch out the pink for blue!

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    1. That's a bit mean they wouldn't tell you. The first thing I said to her was I want to know the sex haha.

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  14. Congratulations Toni - this is simply beautiful news. I have a younger sister who is truly my best friend. We have many treasured memories of our childhood playing together, and are enjoying creating new ones watching our families grow. Much love x

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  15. aaah!! So exciting! 2 girls. Such awesome news. xx

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