Friday, July 29, 2016

We now have a threenager

Something really odd happened this week....

On Monday I woke up as a mother of a threenager {for those not familiar, this is the colloquial term for 3 year old, once you have one you'll understand why}. Three years old! How did that happen? Well obviously I know how it happened because I've seen it unfold before my eyes over the last 1100 days, however it still seems like one minute I was in a daze wondering where my newborn appeared from {if that statement makes no sense you obviously haven't read my birth story} and now I have a sassy, head strong three going on thirteen year old toddler.

Isn't it funny how pregnancy seems to take 4529 years to end and yet once the baby pops out time seems to go by so quick. It's also ironic that we tend to forget all the hard times that we thought would never end. I'm fairly certain during the first few months of her life when sleep was almost non existent, and we were dealing with a super unsettled baby due to allergies, I didn't think life was going by at a blink-and-you'll-miss-it rate. Yet here I am three years later wondering where all the time went. I'm aware it all seems rather cliche but it really is true. And now I'm worried I'm going to wake up one day soon and she'll be a teenager.

Speaking of teenagers, wow is the term threenager accurate! I thought the last few weeks that we had entered the threenager stage a bit early as the phrases NO!, I don't wan't to and I said NO had been making regular appearances in her vocabulary, however it's like she turned 3 and a switch was flicked and now she's a full blown moody tiny teenager. You know when a caterpillar goes into its cocoon and comes out a butterfly? It's like that, but not as pretty.

There are good parts still though of course like the cuddles for no reason and aww mummy I love you and mummy you're so beautiful at random moments throughout the day, but the rest of the day seems to be peppered with tantrums, mood swings and defiance. I've admired her sense of independence in the past, but after a one hour screaming tantrum over bed time it doesn't seem so endearing anymore. I'm really starting to think that three is a test all us parents need to go through in order to be prepared for the real teenage years. I'm just hoping she's getting all her angst out now and we'll coast through the teens. It could happen, right?

Do you have a threenager too?
Or if you've survived the threenager phase do you have any advice for me?

Toni x


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18 comments:

  1. My threenager years are long gone and in a fortnight's time our youngest turns into a teenager! His attitude has already become a teenager! Why does time fly past so quickly!!!

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    1. Good luck with the teenager years x I wish time would slow down.

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  2. It's certainly been a roller coaster ride for us - and each age and stage comes with their pros and cons. They can DO so much stuff at 3 that they couldn't at 2. It opens up more opportunities for learning and they become more independent and want control over the decision making process. Currently we are hearing "I WANT TO MAKE THE DECISIONS" 😳

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    1. Yes everything has to be her decision and she has to do everything herself. I do love that she can do so many more things though, but she stills thinks she's a full blown adult and can do everything already which can be quite frustrating {for her and me}.

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  3. My threenager turned 4 last March. My only advice is to keep the nice chocolate biscuits for after bedtime ��

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  4. You just have to ride it out Toni - I'm sorry I have no instant fixes for you. I recall 3 going into 4 was hard but then things get easier. They still say no and have a mind of their own but they are easier to deal with then!

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  5. I don't have kids, so I don't have any advice just wishes of good luck! :)

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  6. My threenager just turned 9 yesterday! I can only use this term for my daughter, it doesn't apply to my sons, only my daughter did, and still does, drive me up the wall with her stubbornness & moods!

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    1. Hahaha noooo don't tell me it goes on for years. I was hoping she'd magically turn into an angel at 4 {one can only hope}.

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  7. Oh, I remember the threenager days VERY well! The extreme mood swings, the new emotions and the stubbornness! Crazy times...enjoy! :) x

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    1. I can't imagine it x2 at the same time! But if you can survive that then I should be able to survive too.

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  8. We now have the real thing - a teenager. She was actually pretty good as a threenager - I remember thinking how she just morphed from toddler into my little companion, but maybe the soft filter of time is blurring my memory. The whinge and whine of our now 6 year old is much more ingrained in my memory (and it still continues, sigh). Enjoy the time.

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    1. I'm hoping she's just doing things backwards so she's getting all the angst out now and it'll be smooth sailing during the actual teenage years. I was a pretty cruisey teenager, mind you she seems to be the opposite of me so far so this is probably just a warm up for the real thing.

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  9. I've had three boys go through the 3 year old stage with very little tantruming. Then my daughter.... holy crap sacks Batman!!! She just turned 3 on Tuesday and I'm now familiar with exactly what a threenager is.
    Are girls worse or was I just lucky?
    This has me really worried about what lies ahead in the teenage years.

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  10. Cant give you any advice now, as we are in a trouble with our two little girls !

    We have one seven years old (so pass that threenager age!) and one 2 years old. Luckily both of them gets on well with each other. However they just dont want to go to bed! Bed time is a lot of hard work for us. We resort to turning off all nights but they just giggles and refuse to sleep.

    Perhaps we need to separate them, should we?

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