Thursday, January 14, 2016

Waiting is hard

Now that I have a toddler instead of a baby, parenting has taken a shift. We're now navigating the world of emotions, and how to handle them, every day. Every. Single. Day. Boy is that fun. Tiny people have big emotions and they need help understanding them. It's my job to {try to} explain these things to her so they make sense. Sometimes we get it right and sometimes we don't. It's a continuous learning experience.

Her biggest source of frustration at the moment is having to wait. I remind her all the time {often multiple times a day} that sometimes we have to wait. Waiting is hard, but if you're patient then you'll get what you want.


Waiting is hard.

I'm constantly handing out little life lessons in a bid to explain this to her. Being a toddler is hard. There's lots of tears, stomping, sour faces and the ever present "NO!". Toddlers don't want to wait. It's an inevitable part of life though and she needs to learn that. We don't have to be ok with waiting, but we have to learn to accept it.

Most of the time in this parenting gig I have no idea what I'm doing. I think for the most part everyone just wings it {right?}. Thanks to our infertility journey though I know a lot about waiting. I've spent many years waiting for something I wanted {4yrs waiting for bub and almost a year already this time}. Waiting can be bloody hard. I have to admit there have been many times during those 5 years where I haven't handled waiting as well as I should. There have been the odd emotional outbursts {fits of anger, breakdowns, uncontrollable sobbing and lashing out} and sometimes I might resemble a 2yr old. Thankfully though those moments have been behind closed doors and not in the middle of the shopping centre like my actual 2yr old. Just like a toddler having a tantrum, I've had to work through my emotions and accept them.

Infertility is an unpredictable roller-coaster full of ups and downs. The journey is peppered with hope and despair and an unbelievably long {seemingly never-ending} period of waiting. Lately I've been struggling with waiting almost as much as bub.

Teaching a toddler new skills can be enlightening though because it makes you stop and assess your own actions. Sometimes we need to listen to our own advice.

Waiting is hard, and sometimes being an adult is too, but I still have to believe that if I'm patient I will eventually get what I want.


What's the hardest thing you ever had to wait for?

Toni x


14 comments:

  1. Waiting for baby really is a complete emotional rollercoaster. We only waited 18 months the first time but it was still excruciating. I hope you don't have to wait too much longer x

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    1. Excruciating is a good description Bec! In some ways its easier, but then also harder the second time around. Hopefully it happens this year some time.

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  2. Sophie is pretty good at waiting, the last child doesn't usually have a choice, but Riley is hopeless! I've got my fingers crossed for your waiting game.

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    1. Yea bub is pretty spoilt being an only child at the moment. She'll have a rude awakening when we have more.

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  3. I did the waiting thing too when using assisted fertility and it's certainly up and down.

    As for waiting on stuff now... I guess I'm the person at fault, the one who's slowing myself down.

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  4. Yes, the waiting is hard for kids and adults alike. The hardest thing I have waited for is a child too. I hope you don't have to wait too much longer xx

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  5. Oh the waiting game. Yes little Miss Raj struggles with it herself. But it is quite funny now when she tells Baby Raj to wait....I must say it too often to her!! Good luck on the fertility side - it is a rollercoaster but the wait is worth it

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    1. Haha it must be sinking in on some level if she's repeating it to her sister.

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  6. Waiting is hard. I'm naturally impatient and have had to learn patience the hard way. I am trying to teach my kids those same lessons but I think they tend to take after me!

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    1. T is the same. I think bub takes after him. They're also both incredibly stubborn despite being impatient {you'd think those traits wouldn't go together, but they do}.

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  7. Your perseverance and tenacity reminds me to keep at it when it comes things I want. It's not easy to be patient and wait, but you can be rewarded if you do!
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    1. Definitely not easy, but hopefully it will be worth it.

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