Monday, January 11, 2016

My goals for 2016

I'm not one for resolutions, never have been. I don't think you need to make life changing decisions or commitments just because a new year has started. If you really want to make a change then make it, regardless of the time. I also think resolutions have a tendency to be over the top and in essence set people up for failure and aint nobody got time for that! 

Truth be told my head has been all over the place lately, thanks to our second fertility journey we've been on for the last few months, and its really knocked me around emotionally. Because of that I just haven't had the mental space to keep up with things, and to be honest I don't really see that changing any time soon... so instead of beating myself up about it I'm giving myself permission to let things go this year and simplify everything. I've set myself some smaller, realistic goals to work towards {but it doesn't matter if I don't stick to them}. This year is about being kinder to myself and realising I can't do all the things and I don't have to do all the things



If I was to pick a word to describe what I envisage for 2016, it would be balance. This year is all about finding balance in every facet of my life and I plan on doing that by:

Blogging only when I want to.
Last year I was pretty vigilant at sticking to a 4 day a week blogging schedule. It was fun and I loved having a schedule in place, but it also ended up being exhausting. The problem is my schedule didn't take into account the fact that I have a 2yr old and that she wants my attention every 5 minutes. Aaaand then she decided to give up day naps + she doesn't go to sleep until 9-10pm most nights. Staying up until midnight trying to get blog posts done very quickly went from being fun to being really annoying not fun. 

So this year I'm taking the pressure off and blogging when I want to. It'll still be every week and some weeks it might even be 4 times a week still, but only when I can fit it in. I've also taken my 52 weeks of memories photography challenge away from the blog and set it up via email and facebook. 

Spending more time playing with my daughter.
Keeping up with my blogging schedule last year meant I was trying to write while bub was awake {you can guess how well that went by my first point}. On the days I was trying to meet blogging deadlines I saw her asking me to play with her or help her with things as an interruption and inconvenience. That's not the way it should be. I spent my life wanting to be a stay at home mum to spend time with my kids, not put other things first.

It's a huge dilemma because on the one hand I want to do more writing to make money {because staying at home makes me poor}, but I also don't want to miss out on the precious moments with her. I hated the fact that both my parents worked and I never saw them so I want to be here for her. I want to play with her, have fun with her, teach her new things and go on adventures with her. One day she won't want to play with me any more so I want to do it as much as possible while we still can.



Doing more things as a family.
In the past shift work has really screwed up family time. Thanks to a mixture of day shifts, night shifts, rotating rosters and overtime T spent a lot of his time off sleeping and it's been hard to fit in quality family time. At the moment he's been temporarily put on continuous day shifts so it means more useful time together as a family. I want to make the most of it by going on adventures and day trips more often. Spending time at the beach, at the park, watching movies, swimming etc.

Being more active.
Notice I didn't say diet or exercise, because those words are evil and make me want to go hide in a corner and eat all the chocolate! Instant fail. Instead both T and I want to try and be more active {without joining a gym or going too crazy}. I'm still carrying around some baby weight, although I don't think I can call it that 2.5yrs later, and he's put on some weight too. It's got to the point where we can't just brush it off anymore so we're going to do something about it. We started yesterday by going to the pool and we plan on keeping that up and maybe adding in some other things. Dare I say I may even like to do a park run one day, but that's a long way off. I'm happy with swimming and chasing after a 2yr old for now.

Having another baby.
So this is a goal I wanted to achieve in 2015 and didn't so I'm carrying it over to this year. Unfortunately due to some health issues we have to wait another few months before we can continue trying so the ship may have already sailed for having a 2016 baby. We could maybe just scrape one in around Christmas time, but at this point I'd be happy to just get pregnant at some point during the year. And yes I know getting pregnant would counteract the losing baby weight and would completely throw off my desire for balance, but I'm willing to deal with that.


What are your goals for 2016?

Toni x


P.s - I still finished writing this post at 11:14pm, but it was because I spent all day enjoying time with my daughter.

Linking with Kirsty and Alicia

27 comments:

  1. balance is a good word for you. I think you've got some great goals happening here!

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  2. Spend time playing with your daughter while she's little - they grow up so quickly and then they don't want to play with you any more :-(. I hope you have a positive outcome on your fertility journey Toni - I've been there and it's certainly challenging. Thinking of you..

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    1. I try to spend time playing with her each day now because I know she won't want my input soon. It's also in the back of my mind that she could be our only child so this might be my only chance.

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  3. Balance is good for both physical and mental health. I hope baby no. 2 pops in this year too

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    1. I definitely need balance for my mental health :)

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  4. I could have written a few of these as my goals too... They're lovely, positive ambitions :)

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  5. best of luck with your final, and obviously most desirable goal.

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    1. Thanks Peta! If I do end up getting pregnant with multiples I'm coming to you for advice :)

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  6. I have the same thoughts and feelings about resolutions and think goals are so much better! I have my fingers crossed that all your goals come through for you, In particularly the last one!!

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    1. Yep resolutions are evil haha. I have all my fingers crossed too, hopefully this year will be our year.

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  7. They sound like great, and very meaningful plans for 2016. As my business gets busier I too will be playing the blogging thing by ear, like you I was posting 4/5 times a week which sometimes is tough, this year I'm not going to fret if I don't keep to that strictly. I don't have any concrete goals other than to continue what I'm doing now, which would include finishing my Dip Dig Mktg this year. Also hoping to travel overseas in 2016.

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    1. Posting 4/5 times is so hard to keep up, not to mention its easy to run out of post ideas when you have to do it that often. Good luck with the dip, I have a bachelor of business majoring in marketing {no doubt some things have changed in the last 11yrs since I got it though}.

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  8. I think balance is a word we could all stand to remember!

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  9. Those sound like good goals. I hope you get pregnant this year xx Best wishes for 2016 Toni

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  10. Hope 2016 turns out to be the year you're hoping for Toni! I have a word of the year, and my goals are yet to be articulated, all I know is that I want to grow as a person this year.

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    1. Growing is always a good thing to strive for :)

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  11. Great goals Toni. I really hope you reach each and every single one of them. I need to take a leaf out of your book and simplify things as well. Struggling at the moment and like you there just isn't enough head space for blogging like I use to.

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    1. Yes my head space is very limited at the moment. I need to focus more on soaking in the sunshine and creating happy hormones to get me through the day. Although blogging is very cathartic too so I can't stop entirely.

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  12. I am a bit like you. I'm not really into resolutions but there are some things that I would like to happen this year, but if they don't, oh well. Good luck getting what you want this year. I am also trying to be a little healthier and more active to look after myself.

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    1. That's my attitude too, if it doesn't happen oh well. No point putting too much pressure on ourselves.

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  13. I so badly want you to reach your goals this year, especially for your new family member. Take it easy and concentrate on your family happiness and everything will fall into place xx

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    1. Thanks Alicia. I think this year really is a year I need to focus on our family and doing things all together {and enjoying it despite the sadness that comes from infertility}.

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  14. I really like that you are trying to go easy on yourself this year. I'm going to belatedly try to join in with your 52 weeks of memories challenge - love that it's not tied to blogging so I might actually achieve it! And I hope you get to try out parkrun. It sounds daunting to walk, jog or run 5km but you'd be surprised at how manageable it is, especially if you take it easy and just walk it at a comfortable pace. More than anything I would love to know you are on your way to your final goal - I know that's the one you want most of all. Fingers and toes and everything crossed for you this year x

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