Monday, July 13, 2015

My most treasured item - my dad's ring

I don't usually value items for what they actually are, but rather their sentimental value. I can easily place sentimental value on most things {so much so that T calls me a hoarder all the time because I never want to let anything go}. I guess losing dad at such a young age made me want to hold onto everything in life, just incase. I attach memories to things and want to hold onto them so the memories stay alive forever.

My most treasured item is one connected to my father - no surprises there really. Its a ring he gave mum when they were younger and it became mine after he died. I'm pretty sure its a promise ring that he gave my mum when they were dating in the 70's. I've actually met a few people over the years who've had the same ring or who's parents had the same ring from around the same era so they must've been popular back then.

Inscribed inside is "{mums name} love Mark". I feel close to him when I hold or wear the ring. I know it sounds silly but I do. I think the fact that its inscribed love Mark makes me see it as a symbol of his love so when I hold onto it I feel like I can feel his love through it. Yep I know that sounds super corny.


I really do feel like he's connected to it though. I've lost it a few times and it always comes back to me. One time when I lost it, it was found in my aunty and uncle's backyard and I hadn't even been there for months at the time. They were his best friends his whole life so part of me feels like he must've made sure the ring was there for them to find so it got back to me. I know on some level it sounds ridiculous but if it was there the whole time in the grass being mowed each week how in the hell did it not get destroyed? Not to mention the fact that I don't even remember taking it there in the first place.

I really feel like that ring is meant to be with me. I don't wear it any more because I'm too scared I'll lose it and it won't find its way back. I'd be devastated if I lost it forever. Now I keep it in a very safe place and I hope to pass it on to bub so it stays in the family for generations.

I have no idea what its actually worth, and I don't really care, because to me its worth everything.


Do you have an item you treasure too?

Toni x

Linking with Kirsty and Alicia.

24 comments:

  1. I don't think it's corny at all that you feel your dads love through the ring he gave your mother OR that it helps you feel a connection to him. I think it's a gorgeous ring and it's fabulous that you have this! :-)

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    1. I'm so glad I have it because we don't really have much of anything that he owned.

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  2. I hold onto things too. I am wearing a ring my dad gave mum on their first wedding anniversary and they celebrate 31 years this year so it's very treasured to me. I have my Nan's jewellery too which I got after she died in 2007. To me I don't care about monetary value it's sentimental value that means the most.

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    1. I heav a few of nan's things too :)

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  3. It's definitely things like this that you can't replace or put a monetary value on. It's not corny at all. Makes total sense.

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    1. Yep I wouldn't care if it was worth 2c its still invaluable to me.

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  4. What a gorgeous item to remember him by. I lost my dad young too and have a shoebox stuffed in the cupboard with a couple of things but it is nice to see you have something to can wear everyday. Is there something that I value....probably just as you, not things just people and my little family.

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    1. Its one of the only things I have to remind me of him. I really should wear it more often.

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  5. I love the story of this ring and how it keeps finding its way back to you! A lovely treasure.

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    1. I swear he was the one making it come back to me.

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  6. That does not sound silly at all... I have a ring that was my sisters, and one that was my uncles, and I love and wear them both often and have the same feeling. There is something soothing about wearing them.

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    1. Yes its so comforting having it and being able to feel like a piece of him is still with me like you probably feel with your rings too :)

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  7. That's beautiful... Some thing have no value... Just priceless

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  8. How wonderful the ring found its way back to you. I would be nervous about wearing it now too.

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    1. Yea I'm definitely nervous about wearing it now.

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  9. I remember my mum having a similar friendship ring only in silver, my dad would have given it to her in the early 1960's! I completely understand the connection your feel to it; I have a bugs bunny tie that I feel is a very special connection to my mum (I've written about it on the blog today). xxx

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    1. A few people have said they've had it in silver, it must've definitely been the in thing back then :)

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  10. I get this Toni - I feel close to Dad by cuddling his shirt. Even just looking at it in my wardrobe gives me a little more comfort. None of that is corny at all x

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    1. I wish I had a shirt of his. Its so cool that you get to keep that forever :)

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  11. That is such a precious memento. I can see why it is so dear to you. So weird it ended up in your aunt and uncles back yard! Awesome that it found it's way back to you x

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    1. Yea I'm pretty sure there was a bit of divine intervention there :)

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  12. Like you most of the things that I treasure just have sentimental value and dollar value has nothing to do with it but photos are my most valued thing.

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    1. I love my photos too. We didnt have many photoss growing up so I take heaps of photos now. I love that everything is so easily digital these days too so I can upload to facebook or here and still have the photos if anything should ever happen to my actual printed photos.

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