Friday, April 3, 2015

My pets were my first babies

This post is in conjunction with Pet Circle

Going through infertility is a lonely journey. Being full of love you want to give to a baby, but can't, is heartbreaking. I desperately longed to have someone to cuddle and love on for years, so naturally I ended up with a cat. It was inevitable really. I originally had a cat called Phoebe, but we had to give her away when we moved, then later on I ended up with three cats. Yes you read that right, three cats - Shelby, Max & Jasper. In my defence I got them over a two year period, not all at once, so that makes me a bit less of a crazy cat lady right?

| Baby Shelby |

| Baby Max |

| Baby Jasper |


My cats were most definitely my first babies. They gave me something to love and take care of and most importantly snuggle with. They filled the void of not having a real baby and provided me with the unconditional love I was missing. In return I gave them pretty much everything they wanted - special cat food, treats, their own beds, toys - even Christmas presents some years {yea I know that's a bit crazy cat lady}.

The good thing about having cats is that I felt like I had my own babies, but I didn't have to completely overhaul my life the way I would if I had a real baby. I loved that I could still work full time and leave them at home all day knowing they'd be fine without me. The great thing about cats is that they're independent enough to take care of themselves {except food}, but they're also affectionate enough that they'll share cuddles and kisses. And thankfully they're super easy to toilet train, unlike real babies {I'm so not looking forward to that!}.

Each night I would come home from work and be greeted by Shelby waiting for me at the door. I swear she's psychic because she was always there at the window waiting for me regardless of what time I got home. They'd all sit at my feet while I made dinner in the kitchen, begging for their own treats the whole time. I managed to teach them to sit and wait on command for their cat treats {whoever said you can't train cats was wrong}. After dinner we'd have cuddles on the couch - Jasper at the end of my feet, Max on my feet and Shelby on my lap.

For years they truly were my babies. My world {mainly} revolved around them and theirs around me.

I was a bit apprehensive, when I finally got pregnant, about how the family dynamic would change once the baby was here. While I was pregnant they were amazing though. Shelby sat over my belly every night protecting the baby {which was hilarious once she started to kick}. Both Max and Shelby used to follow me into the toilet every time I went - I swear they thought the baby would fall in there. Jasper became a lot more attentive as well. I stopped worrying. Everything was fine. My family was changing, but it was growing so it could only get better.



Nowadays there's one more baby, who keeps growing bigger and bigger each day. Who chases them around for fun. Who gives them cuddles {sometimes a little more overzealous than necessary}. Who kisses them and pats them. And who loves them unconditionally just like me.

Our family has grown and changed, but they're still my babies.

Do you treat your pets like your babies?


Toni x

Disclosure - this is a sponsored post for Pet Circle in accordance with my disclosure policy.

15 comments:

  1. That's so interesting that you cats were your first babies because a few years after I left home and uni, my mum got a dog and he was totally like her second baby. He died last year at the ripe old age of 15 and she was so sad and so grief stricken, talking to her, you wouldn't have known whether he was a fur baby or a human one. I love this post because it goes to show that pets are more than just animals, they really are part of the family. And can I say what cute babies you have? Both of the feline and human kind!

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    1. Pets are totally more than just animals :)

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  2. I really do think having pets can teach you all sorts of things about love, about nurturing others, and about being selfless. Love the photos of the cats with your bub, I bet it's gorgeous to watch them together :)

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    1. Max is her best friend, he lets her do anything to him. She pushes him around in her fake shopping trolley, cuddles him and belly flops on top of him and he just takes it all. Its so cute watching them together.

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  3. I will always miss our family dog Scruffy. He lived til 17 and was such a loving soul. Your photos are precious :)

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    1. My first cat died at the end of last year at 15. Its amazing how long they can be part of the family for.

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    2. We had a bird too who also lived for much longer than ever expected. Very special.

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  4. We have three pets that are like our babies and a human one now too! I think it has been a difficult transition for the fur pets but they adjust and get to enjoy the new bigger family as you say

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    1. We had to re-home Jasper after a few weeks because it was obvious he was too jealous of bub. Its sad because I think he'd be fine with her now shes a toddler, but hes gone to a good home and I dont want to uproot him again.

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  5. We have 3 dogs, 1 cat, budgies, 4 chickens and fish....and 4 kids, I am going to start charging admission soon.... I have said no more animals!!!!

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    1. Trent wishes we had a real backyard so we could get a dog, but we wont be moving any time soon.

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  6. Absolutely, I still have a whole lotta love to give but my babies are grown up! Thank goodness for my kitty Miss Fleur, as I work from home, she is my constant companion.

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    1. Everytime I write about the cats I think of you Janet.

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  7. What gorgeous cats! I always called our dog our fur child and we were devastated when she died. Animals always seem to create such a special place in our hearts x

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    1. I'm going to be so upset when they die, but hopefully they still have a few years left. They really are like members of the family.

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