Friday, December 19, 2014

Sydney Siege - The Helpers



I happened to be watching the news on Monday morning just as the news of the Sydney Siege was breaking. I immediately had similar feelings to when I was watching 911 unfold on the tv thirteen years ago. Shock. Sadness. Disbelief. However this time it was different. This time it was in my own country, not my state thank god, but still far too close for comfort. That's such a weird saying when you think about it because there's nothing comforting about the situation at all.

It was also different because instead of being a teenager sitting at home with my mum, this time I was the mum sitting at home with my 16 month old daughter. One of the first things I thought was thank god my baby is too young to understand what's going on. Thank god I don't need to have a conversation with her trying to explain what's happening. Thank god she could still spend the day with the Bananas in Pyjamas, Upsy Daisy and Thomas completely blissfully unaware of all the horror that was unfolding.

I wish she could stay in her blissful bubble forever. 

Unaware of the suffering and bad people in the world.

Unfortunately as the world faces tragedies like this far too often and with information so readily available I'm sure there will come a time when I'll have to have that conversation. The one where I try and explain why there are bad people in the world who do bad things. The one where I try and help her understand that, despite these bad people existing, she shouldn't be scared. She doesn't have to be afraid. Because mummy and daddy are here to protect her. And while I have that conversation I'll have to keep my own anxiety under wraps so she believes me - that I can protect her from the bad people and the bad things. Because if she doesn't believe me then the bad people have won, and I won't let them win.


There will always be helpers and the helpers will always outnumber the bad people.


Toni x


Linking with Grace, Ann, Bel and Sonia

31 comments:

  1. I've always loved that saying about their being helpers - now even more with hubby as a helper (fire fighter). And in this tragedy there has been so much coming together as a community too. Peace and love do win out.

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    1. Yea the one good thing to come out of it has been how everyone has united in their grief and empathy for others.

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  2. I want to always be a helper. Lovely post. x

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  3. I've never heard of that quote before, but I really like it. Thank God for all of the people who have come together to help, to provide support and to promote kindness.

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    1. Yea its really nice to see everyone stand together.

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  4. Thank God for the helpers in life Toni. I remember the night of 9/11 I was feeding my first child who was then 4 months old and thinking GOD what kind of world have I brought this child into. Those feelings came flooding back on Monday but I am choosing to focus on the heros and the bravery and the kindness shown by complete strangers. It is what ill get me and all of us through this xx

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    1. Yea we have to look at the good in all of it, otherwise its just too depressing.

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  5. That day was so scary, we were all just gathered around the television waiting for it to be over for everyone involved.

    Tegan xx - Permanent Procrastination

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    1. I know I kept checking for updates all day.

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  6. I've found it really hard not to let Bell hear too much about it all, because at 11 they can tend to dwell on it. Thank goodness for the helpers, for sure xx

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    1. Yea I'm worried if anything happens when shes older I'll struggle to keep her sheltered from it all too.

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  7. "Look for the helpers" is an awesome quote and one that we all use, we all need to be reminded of the good out there. The news is always so wrapped up in the bad :(

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    1. Yea the news is always so depressing, always reporting on the worst of everything. I never realised how negative it was until going on maternity leave and watching the news reports throughout the day. I used to get home after the evening news had already finished so I was a bit out of the loop.

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  8. I have seen that quote doing the rounds, and it's beautiful. I'm glad some beauty has come out of the shocking events of the past few weeks. x

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    1. I only heard of it after this event. Its such a good quote.

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  9. Lovely sentiment. It's been a hard, scary week in Sydney. Never thought something like that would happen so close to me.

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    1. Yea I never thought something like this would happen in Australia at all.

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  10. What a beautiful, positive and uplifting post. I imagine when the day comes that you share with your child some of the reality of this world, this quote will be a wonderful support. Thank you!

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  11. Some of our children are old enough to understand (ten, eight & seven years) & explaining to their young innocent minds what was happening, & even harder why is was happening, is one of the harder conversations we've had. Then their comments & thoughts on what they could do to help, well it was one of the proudest moments.
    I love that here, in Australia (& all over the world) we are full of helpers, & it seems the next generation are even more determined to lift us all higher.

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    1. I imagine it would've been such a hard conversation. Children are so resilient and its wonderful that they wanted to help instead.

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  12. I was on holiday at Burleigh and saw it all unfold on Channel 7. I saw the terror on those faces pressed up to the windows and I cried and cried. How many more bad things were going to happen in 2014? How could this be happening in Australia? How could a human being do this to other human beings? Will they make it out alive? How many are in there? Just some of the thoughts going through my head. Sadly two of the hostages did lose their lives. It was so devastating to wake the next morning to that news. Sometimes I wish I was a kid again whose parents protected and shielded me from every having to know of such horrors. It hurts my heart so bad. I hope 2015 does not hold so many tragedies as 2014 did. xo

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    1. Yes 2014 did seem to have a large number of tragedies. I hope 2015 is a lot smoother and everyone is kinder to each other.

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  13. I was in Sydney worried sick about my Dad in surgery as the siege unfolded. It was a terrible day and I felt sick for Dad, for the hostages and for my kids back home in Newcastle. Then with the week ending with the tragedy in Cairns, it was hard to understand that fundamental question - WHY? Our kids will need to understand the good and the bad in the world one day but I hope they are shielded from it as long as possible.

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    1. Yea I hope they all stay shielded from it as long as possible too.

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  14. This was such a sad thing to happen, and to think it may have been prevented. I am so proud of our country's people, and how we have rallied together to overcome it. Now the justice system and government need to pull their heads out of the arses and do something, so that it doesn't happen again this way.

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