Monday, May 19, 2014

Its important to take care of yourself

This post is in collaboration with Rexona

reminder to take care of yourself
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BC (before children) I took great care of myself. I wore makeup everyday. I moisturised morning and night as well as exfoliating each week. I waxed my eyebrows and legs. I straightened my hair regularly. I painted my toenails a different colour each week. I took looong hot showers. I spent time unwinding each night watching my favourite tv shows. I went to the movies. I slept in on my days off. I went to the beach to relax. I did what I wanted when I wanted. I never did anything too over the top, but I took care of my body and made sure I took time out for myself.

Then I had a baby and how quickly things changed...

You know the cliché saying that women let themselves go once they have a baby, well in my case it was totally true. After having my daughter, any time and motivation, for self care went out the window. With a newborn who had colic, demand fed, didn't like sleeping and went through a ridiculous amount of nappies and clothes in a day it was hard enough finding time to eat. Let alone do anything else just for me. Like most new mums, I put my babies needs before my own. Besides, It's amazing what you'll tolerate when you have no energy at all.

funny quote about how women lower appearance standards once they become mums.


I spent a good part of the first few weeks in my pyjamas or a pair of yoga pants. Having had little to no sleep and a healing c-section scar all I was concerned with was comfort. It's a good thing I don't have any older kids because I can guarantee school drop off probably would've involved me wearing pjs, at least on the odd occasion. Pretty much the only time I put on real clothes  was when I needed to leave the house. I was horrified the first time a delivery man came to drop off a parcel and I was still in my pj's, but to my surprise he didn't even bat an eyelid. I guess that means its a relatively common thing?

funny quote about motherhood and staying in pyjamas all day.


Any hair care basically went out the window, I was lucky to get a shower at all, let alone one long enough to wash my hair. My go to hair style  was (and is) the dishevelled bun. Shaving in general is now done "as needed" instead of everyday. It's ok though because its coming up to winter and long pants hide a multitude of sins. Isn't winter awesome?

Even while my standards in terms of appearance and self care slipped initially, there were two items that I made sure I never went without. The first is lip gloss. It's about the only makeup product I wear on a daily basis since having bub. Foundation, eye-shadow etc is reserved for special occasions these days as I simply don't have the time to leave her unattended while I do my makeup properly. Slapping on a bit of lipgloss is as good as it gets here most days. Thankgod for Instagram filters is all I can say.

The second, deodorant, is a complete necessity. My grandmother drummed the importance of a good deodorant into me from a young age. I can handle wearing daggy clothes, but I simply can't handle going without deodorant. I also noticed a definite increase in sweat after giving birth, as well as having hot flushes while breastfeeding. Apparently the hormonal changes involved in birth and the shedding of excess water weight from pregnancy are to blame (if you find yourself in the same situation, try the new Rexona Clinical Protection range). Thankfully the hot flushes calmed down after a few weeks and everything seems to be back to normal now.

Now that we're both getting a better nights sleep I'm starting to feel like the old me again. The self induced hibernation period after having bub is well and truly over. I'm not quite back to painting my toenails each week, but I am taking much better care of myself again. I'm finally thinking about booking in for the pedicure and massage session T gave me for my birthday back in October. I've also booked in for my first haircut and colour since I was four months pregnant (for those playing at home that means its been 14 months since I had my hair done). One day I hope to get back to having long hot relaxing showers each night, but I know that may be years off yet.

As part of my recovery from PND my psychologist keeps telling me its important to put in the effort and put myself first (at least some of the time). Looking after yourself has both emotional and physical benefits. Its relaxing. It recharges you and most of all you feel good about yourself. So with that I'm trying to take time out and do little things for myself each day.

50 different ways to relax, de-stress and take a break from everyday life.


What's your necessary self care item?
How do you take care of yourself?


Toni xx

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28 comments:

  1. I too stopped looking after myself after children. I spend a lot of time now making sure I am ok. Strangely though, it is not in the same way as before. My values has changed. I don't see the importance of regular hair cuts or hair removal. I am beautiful without them and rather spend my money in other ways. I take time out now by dressing well, and taking time out by myself whether its through a walk, meditation, writing or a coffee.

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    1. Yes my values have changed too. I'm only getting my hair done because its ridiculously bad at the moment because I've neglected it for so long.

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  2. I love that 'how far I can let myself go and still be okay with it' - ha! I don't wear heels as much anymore, and now they hurt after just one night. When I wore them every day to work it wasn't a problem at all!

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    1. It's so true Lydia (and I'm amazed by how far I can let myself go and T is ok with it - just quietly). I gave up on heels loooong ago!

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  3. I had a couple of skin tags cut off from my armpits last week, so had to go anti persirant and deodorant free for a couple of days. Peee- eeewww!!!

    My necessary self-care - lipstick on before I go anywhere.

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    1. Ouch Janet! I've always been a lipgloss girl over lipstick.

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  4. I've had a week of letting myself go due to sheer exhaustion. I'm hoping to revert back to my normal high maintenance self shortly.

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    1. I've had almost a year of letting myself go due to exhaustion!

      Hope you're feeling better soon Raychael.

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  5. I have just been thinking about this...I have let myself go lately and it is time to get back into it. Thanks for the timely reminder :)

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    1. I think I need to stick up post it notes around my house to remind me most of the time.

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  6. I hear you - I definitely let my personal care go because I had more things to worry about, but these things are slowly coming back now that my youngest is 2.5, it's taken 6 years as a mum though!

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    1. I hope it doesn't take me 6yrs!

      I think its the lack of working... if I don't NEED to look good then I kind of just don't really care as much.

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  7. I have to start the day with a shower - that's a must for me everyday. I wear makeup and dress well for work but otherwise, as long as I've had a shower and put some moisturiser on my face, I'm all good!

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    1. I really need to get back into moisturising, I used to do it religiously everyday. I wish I could start my day with a shower, but I don't think that'll be happening for a while yet.

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  8. What a great post - I definitely let myself go as well and I have not had anytime whatsoever to myself. It even got to the point of no deodarant because my thinking was..well I am at home no one sees me so who cares. I think it actually made me depressed and feel so horrible. Now I make sure everyday I have a shower as this is probably the only time of the day where I am alone.

    As a side - I remember when I was a kid there was a picture book called "five minutes peace" I used to read it all the time with my mum and she always used to say I wish I had five minutes peace - now I understand why!

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    1. I started getting really depressed about it too and I totally understand where your mum was coming from!

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  9. As long as I've sorbolened my face, arms and legs and put my roll-on on these days , I'm good to go. I used to wear make up just about everyday, now I just can't be bothered!

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    1. Yea my care factor for make-up these days is pretty low.

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  10. You will feel a million bucks when you get your hair done, Toni. That is one thing that I always make time for. That is my eyebrows. If my hair and eyebrows look good then I feel good. Glad you are taking more time for you. God knows it's not easy!!!

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    1. I will be so excited just having someone do my hair! Having someone doing something for me for once instead of me always doing something for everyone else :)

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  11. Excellent post Toni. Your little one is so precious!

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  12. Fun times, fun times. I was never big on personal care BC - I mean I always used deodorant and stuff just never good at hair care or makeup or anything - but I still feel like I'm missing out now just because I couldn't do it even if I wanted to. Oh what a weird and wonderful reality kids are!

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    1. I think I only ever really wore makeup and took proper care of my hair because I worked full time. I think without the expectations from work the motivation probably wouldn't have been there.

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  13. I totally agree there although it's very easy to forget to look after yourself. I used to wear makeup every day too and now I never wear it except for when we go out. I reckon it's a good thing because my skin is so much better and I can get away with it now. I'm like you, I'm happy chucking my hair back in a pony tail and definitely can't maintain anything else (you may have seen my 'hairstyle evolution' post?). I'm most comfy in a pair of trackies and singlet or shorts, I rarely spend money on clothes anymore and if I do, they're from Kmart or Target (which is totally fine). I think although I have forgotten about myself a lot as a Mum, sometimes it's really made me think about what is most important in my life and that's definitely not clothes or looking good. Every now and then I'll go and get a massage or pedicure and that's nice.

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    1. I really need to start wearing moisturiser again. I'm sure my skin is much better for not being caked in makeup each day, but it is getting a bit dry without the moisturiser. Its funny about the clothes, I used to only buy expensive brand name clothes purely because I worked in a department store and was surrounded by them everyday. Now that I'm not I go for cheap/reasonable clothes all the time. My priorities have definitely changed.

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  14. I could totally relate to this post. I haven't bought myself a nice outfit for so long. For me, it's a splash of foundation to cover up my pigmentation before I go out :) Such a good reminder, thanks.

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    1. I really need to put on foundation too I've got so much pigmentation after having her.

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