[WARNING] - This post may be triggering for those affected by depression or suicide.
I don't normally write posts inspired by the latest news headlines, but this time I will make an exception. This story in particular has touched a chord with me. I have been having flashbacks because of it. I'm talking about Charlotte Dawson and the news of her suicide.
It's sad that people are only coming out in support of her now that she's dead. Now that those words and sentiments can't do anything to help her. Now that shes not here to hear them. Most of all its incredibly sad that she was so engulfed by depression that she got to the point where she would rather die than face the world any longer.
I hate how people presume to know what was going on in the minds of people who've committed suicide. Everyone is always so quick to say oh they should have talked more, they should have done this and that. What about society and everyone else? What could other people have done to help the situation? It's so easy for people to sit back and speculate about the situation, especially after its already happened.
Suicide is always a tragedy. Its tragic that the person who is gone felt there was nowhere else to turn. Its tragic for the family and friends who are left behind trying to piece together what's happened. Trying to make sense of the signs they missed, the things they think they could have done. The many what if's that will play over and over in their mind. I know exactly what its like to be left to live life after suicide. I also know what its like to live with depression, but I would never assume to be proficient on topics such as suicide, depression or mental health in general. Every case is different and every case is inherently personal. I don't think its appropriate for complete strangers or the media to be throwing around their opinions on a case they know nothing about. A case that by its very nature they won't ever know the real reasons or thoughts behind.
Instead, I think everyone should focus on what can be done to change the perception in society. To remove the stigma of mental illness and encourage people to seek help. If it wasn't seen as such a bad thing then maybe more people would seek out help instead of feeling so alone? Perhaps everyone should be looking at what they can do to help change society going forward instead of speculating about something in hindsight.
Charlotte is now at peace and so is my dad. I hope they are now free of their worries and troubles and are now happy flying free somewhere.
We can't change what's happened in their cases, but we can try to help others.
If you are suffering from depression and need support these services can help:
Lifeline 13 11 14
Beyond Blue 1300 224 636
Suicide call back service 1300 659 467