Friday, February 14, 2014

An unusual love story

As a young girl I remember watching Disney movies like Beauty and the Beast, The Little Mermaid and Cinderella. Although they all have different messages and story lines they all end up with the main character overcoming obstacles and ending up with her 'prince charming'. For a couple of years I thought that's the way it worked, I would turn into some type of princess and meet my prince charming and live happily ever after. However, after watching mum and dad split up and then mum being a single parent for years after dad died the fantasy kind of disappeared. Dam you Disney for giving me false hope and dam you life for ruining it.

After my first marriage didn't go so well I didn't have high hopes of any fairytale love coming from nowhere and sweeping me off my feet. In fact I had completely come to terms with being alone for the rest of my life {a bit dramatic I know, but I had just gone through a divorce from a man who kept telling me this would be my reality if I ever left him}. I was totally happy on my own, in fact I was relishing my freedom to do what I wanted. I was going out because I wanted to. I was getting dressed up to look good for me, not for a man. I was definitely not looking for love. That old saying that you'll find love when you stop looking for it happens to be true in my case. I met my soul mate by accident.

I went out for new years eve with my best friend and some of her friends. We weren't looking for men or love or anything other than a fun girls night out. Towards the end of the night I was kind of over it. I'd had my fill of watching extremely drunk people doing ridiculous things because they were inebriated. It was entertaining at the beginning of the night, but after a couple of hours the novelty wore off. Clearly my alcohol had worn off by then too and I just wanted to leave. Lucky I didn't because I never would have met him.

This is the totally random moment we met.

My friends were arguing with this guy because they wanted his hat {one of those cardboard top hats that had NYE on it} and he wouldn't give it to them. He had his back to me so I just took it off his head {because I was over the stupid argument}. I didn't really care how he was going to react. Then he turned around and my first thought was oh shit hes good looking. It turns out he must have thought I was alright too because he spent the rest of the night with us. I went from wanting to leave at 1am to staying out until 5am, when they literally kicked us all out.

I was so out of touch with the dating game that he had to ask me for my number and my first thought was oh that's right, that's how this works. I guess I'd already come to the conclusion he would never want to see me again. That's pretty much how it worked back when I was 19 and I met guys in clubs. To my surprise he did call and we did see each other again. After a few weeks we succumbed to the fact that we were in fact "dating" and that we'd accidentally found ourselves in a relationship when we both weren't looking for one.


I can't really recall the exact moment I realised that I loved him, but the point I realised he loved me was one night when I was really drunk and vomited everywhere. He went inside and I assumed he was leaving and I wouldn't see him again. Instead he came out and cleaned everything up and looked after me. We'd only been "dating" for about a month. That's true love right there people. From that point on I knew he'd always be there to look after me.


Almost two years after we met we got engaged while on holidays in Sydney. About two weeks after that we found out I was pregnant, which was the most awesome surprise. She was very much a planned baby, but it was a surprise because we were literally just told we would need to do IVF to conceive. I went to Sydney with one love and came back with another already secretly growing inside of me.


Maternity photos taken by Jane Gilbey Photography

Now we're a perfect little family of three. I couldn't imagine life any other way. I often think what if I didn't go out that night? What if I never took that stupid hat off his head? Where would I be now? I had no idea when I met him that he would become my future.

Photo taken by Katharine Maree Photography

So, my prince didn't come riding up on an impressive horse, fly into my life on a magic carpet or rescue me from the ocean. There was no grand entrance or love at first sight moment for us and I was certainly not dressed like a princess when we met. It was just a simple fleeting moment between two strangers that coincidentally became the greatest love story of my life.

Toni x

53 comments:

  1. I like this story better than Disney. What a great read for Valentines Day. Thanks for sharing your story. :)

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  2. What a lovely love story! I'm glad you finally did meet your prince charming x

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  3. Fairytales are out there they just come in many shapes and forms. Gorgeous story xx

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  4. Such a heart warming story. All the best to you and your beautiful family.

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  5. Happy for you Toni. Gorgeous pics! x

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  6. Awww, what a lovely story! I'm so glad you found your Prince Charming, sounds like you might have had to contend with a toad in your first husband!

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    1. Yes a complete and utter toad! Glad I got out of that.

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  7. Such a gorgeous story......better than any TV show on tonight. Thanks for sharing and happy Valentines Day to you and your beautiful family x

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  8. That's such a beautiful story Toni...thanks for sharing! Hope you guys had a lovely day xx

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    1. Thanks PB! It wasn't very romantic, but we had a nice family day at the pool :)

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  9. What a beautiful story to have. Much prefer it to a Disney fairytale anyway!

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  10. I like reading real-life love stories. Because real life is always much better than fairy tales, despite all the difficult twists and turns we have to go through sometimes. Thanks for sharing yours. I'm happy that you eventually found your real-life prince charming for life. Terrific photos, you all look gorgeous!

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    1. Yes there are many more twists and turns in real life, but that just makes it all the more worthwhile in the end :)

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  11. What a gorgeous story. I love the pictures of you both, and then the three of you too.

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  12. Gorgeous story and fab pictures. So great you found your prince and now you have a beautiful baby princess.

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    1. Yes I love my little baby princess :)

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  13. The randomness of it all always gets me - I have friends that met overseas, and I always think if they hadn't been in that spot at that exact time, they'd never have met...lovely story.

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    1. I know right, its amazing how one perfectly timed moment can change your whole future and you don't even know it at the time.

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  14. It's true - you do find love when you least expect.
    Vomit after a month? That's definitely true love!

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    1. Yea and it was those premixed vodka cranberry carton things so it looked like blood lol. I'm sure he was thinking "this chick is so dam awesome I want to be with her for the rest of my life", not.

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  15. "It was just a simple fleeting moment between two strangers that coincidentally became the greatest love story of my life." What a truly perfect love story, sometimes the things we least expect turn out to define us the most. Loved reading your post, thank you for linking up to #convocoffee Josefa

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    1. So true that you always find what you're looking for when you're not looking for it and least expect it.

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  16. A dude who has no trouble cleaning up puke is always a keeper, I say. Lovely story and gorgeous photos.

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  17. oh you do write so beautiful. Such a lovely story.

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  18. That's such a lovely story. I met Boatman when I wasn't looking as well. Such a nice surprise :)

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    1. Its the best way to meet someone :)

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  19. I loved reading this post again. It's such a gorgeous tale of love xx

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  20. Beautiful story Toni - that there is true love x

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  21. Awwwww lovely story. Way better than any movie.

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  22. I do love a good love story. I too found love when I least expected it - was actually engaged to somebody else at the time! After I broke it off, I started dating the man who is now my hubster, as a "fling" to help me recover. Never thought I'd marry him - and here we are, next wedding anniversary is our silver 25 years!

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    1. I thought this would just be a fling too!

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  23. Lovely and amazing story just beautiful really :-)

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  24. What a gorgeous story. Just love it!

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  25. What a beautiful story! I found my husband too when I wasn't looking :-)

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    1. Seems lots of us have! Maybe the secret is to stop looking.

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  26. A lovely story indeed, Toni - written by life! :-) How did Lennon say it inne of his somgs: "Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans."

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