Monday, January 13, 2014

Living in the moment


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I have never been one to come up with new years resolutions, so its no surprise I don't have one this year. They always seem so grand and over the top that they ultimately become unachievable which is why many people fail to keep them. I already have enough criticism and self doubt running around in my head, I don't need to fuel the fire by adding another failure to the list. All this considered though, I must confess that I have decided to try and focus on living in the moment more. It's not a new years resolution, its more an ongoing goal I have set for myself and one I find particularly pertinent now that I'm a mum. I don't want to miss out on anything now that I have a tiny little human to play with. And I don't want her looking back on her childhood thinking I wasn't present with her.

So, how do I plan on doing this?

I've thought of a number of little ways I can go about achieving my goal. I figure if I have a few ways up my sleeve then there's less chance of failure. Right?


1. Take moments to pause

Each day I take moments where I pause. I switch off my brain and the outside world and just be in the moment. I try to really experience what is happening and store it away in my memory bank in the hopes that it will last forever. Most of these times involve my daughter. Most recently today I took a moment to enjoy her sleeping on my lap. I was captivated by how peaceful she looked. Her long eyelashes caressing her cheeks as she slept. One hand holding on to my arm and the other protectively clutching her blankie. It was perfect.

2. Enjoy the simple things

One of the easiest ways to live in the moment is to find the pleasure in the little things. They can be everyday moments or occurrences that you normally wouldn't give a second thought to. Ones I've paid attention to lately include: the times I get to enjoy a hot cup of tea (mums will understand this), the excitement on my daughters face when she knows she's about to be fed, the amount of fun ripping paper can be and how awesome it is to be able to have a shower. Babies are good at making you see the excitement in the simple things, because everything is new and exciting to them no matter how simple it is.

3. Spend less time on gadgets 

It just seems a natural part of society these days that our daily lives are taken over by gadgets. Most homes will have a smart phone, laptop, kindle, Ipod, Ipad, or some other I-thingie.  We have all of them except the kindle. I must confess I am guilty of being on my phone or laptop while I should be enjoying 'real life' moments. I blame you Candy Crush! So, this year I am trying to spend less time on my gadgets and more time in the 'real world'. You have no idea how hard that's going to be considering blogging requires a fair bit of online presence and social media networking (thus gadgets). So, I'm not going as far as eliminating them all together, I am just going to be more aware of when I can and when I shouldn't be on them.



Do you have habits you want to break?
Did you make a new years resolution?
Do you need to live in the moment more?
Do you have any other tips on how to live in the moment?


Toni x


Linking up with

Kirsty from My Home Truths for I must confess...
and Eva from The Multitasking Mummy for #Mummy Mondays




24 comments:

  1. Yes Toni, less time on gadgets! Luckily for me I can't read my phone without glasses and I'm always forgetting to take them out with me. However... when I'm at home I spend far too much time on my laptop.

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    1. I'm trying to limit my laptop time to night time or if she's napping now.

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  2. I have stopped making resolutions because I just don't keep them and I also think, why should it take a new year to make a resolutions? Your post pretty much sums up exactly what I want to focus on. I agree blogging takes up so much time and I need to start setting times during the day when I do 'blogging stuff' and when it's not that time, I don't touch it. At the moment, I just do it whenever. Thanks for linking up!

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    1. I just do whatever at the moment too, I need to be more strict on myself.

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  3. I am so with you on this one! I started making an effort to be more in the moment late last year, as well as acknowledging the good things in each day. I don't really do a gratitude journal but I do take time to 'be' in a moment as often as possible and appreciate all that is wonderful about it. xox

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    1. A gratitude journal is a great idea, but I think I would keep forgetting to write things down. I started my photo challenge so that I will have lots of photographic evidence of us being in the moment together.

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  4. I am exactly the same! I make goals not new years resolutions. All the same reasons.
    This is so true.. I need to switch off the gadgets more. I have found it more difficult as I focus on blogging. Writing posts and editing photos takes enough time, let alone reading all the blogs I love to read, commenting and linking up. It feels like when I'm at home I'm either on gadget or cooking or cleaning lol

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  5. Yes, the gadgets thing is one of my goals too...I check my email way too many times a day. I have tried to stay away from the iPhone when my kids are around and let them tell me off if I do...sounds like 2014 will be a very lovely one for you! xx

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    1. I have got better at not checking my email every ten minutes, but I need to learn to step away from Facebook and Candy Crush more often!

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  6. Your reasons for no resolution is pretty much why I decided to give them up completely this year. As you said I give myself enough grief without adding more pressure on top.

    Good luck with putting down the gadgets more often! I am terrible for being on my phone too much.

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    1. Yea if I think of it as an actual resolution I will end up just criticising myself at the end of the year if I don't achieve it and then I'll feel worse about it than before so it kind of defeats the purpose of having a resolution in the first place.

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  7. I really just need my health to improve, even just slightly so I can start pulling off all the crazy but achievable ideas I've been thinking up while on forced bed rest.

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    1. I would hate bed rest! They threatened it when I was pregnant, but it never happened thankgod. I hope your health improves :)

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  8. All of these are my goals also!! Just soaking in the cuteness and loving being in the moment, but also realising that I probably won't remember much of it in years to come, but remembering that at the time I soaked it in and took the time to notice my 2-year-olds big doughy eyes! LESS GADGETS, yes yes yessssssssssssss

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  9. YES being in the moment, but also realising that in the future I might not remember these years but remembering that at the time I took the time to soak in my 2-year-old's doughy eyes and that he took my face in his chubby hands and kissed me on the lips. And a big YES to less gadgets!! XXX

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    1. I love it when she grabs my face and pulls me into her and kisses (slobers all over) my cheek. Its so precious. Good to know boys do that too!

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  10. Making sure I'm living in the moment more is a big one for me at the moment, as is less time on phone/laptop/ipad etc. Our kids our only babies for such a short time, and I want to savour and memorise every moment.

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    1. Yep, I wish the baby stage would last longer.

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  11. This is the third post in a row I have read that started with I don't do resolutions but I would like to make the following changes. I have sat along nodding to all of them going yep this is me all over. Wishing you all the best for the new year Toni, may it be filled with fairy wishes and butterfly kisses

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    1. I think I'm just scared of the stigma associated with the word resolution.

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  12. I usually don't make resolutions but this year I had specific goals I was already working to achieve so I called them Resolutions when New Year rolled around. I am trying to use the elliptical for 30 minutes everyday and I am trying to improve the quality of my relationships.

    I would love for you to hop over and share with us at the Tell Me About It Tuesday party.
    http://www.sweetsillysara.com/2014/01/tell-me-about-it-tuesday-linky-party.html

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    1. I got an elliptical trainer for Christmas, I should add that to my list of goals. Need to work this baby weight off.

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  13. I have a similar goal of stepping away from the iPad/iPhone! Have decided that once I start back at work next week I am deleting Candy Crush! Been stuck on the same level for weeks now so probably won't hurt!

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